BY OBHAKHOBOH JENNIFER
Sexuality
is an instinct imprinted into the genes of each living creature. Attraction to
the opposite sex has been the key factor behind reproduction and survival of
each species. Most of the species are born with only seasonal sexual
necessities. They mate and reproduce only at limited times a year.
Human
beings, on the other hand, have active sexual instincts throughout his/her
life; right from the very day he/she discovers his/her sexuality in
pre-adulthood. This instinct has found overpowering the cultural advancement we
have gained over the past.
Sexuality
is only sexuality for all other animals, but human beings have restricted forms
of sexuality like pre-marital sexuality and extra-marital sexuality. The main
reason behind introducing this restriction is that unlike all other animals we
live in a civilized society with strict norms of morality and cultural
obligations. The society always long for mature relationships and mutual
respect between each member of this society. The main goal behind bringing in
the sexual restrictions is that each member of this society should be treated
with dignity and not as instruments of fulfilling lust.
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What is premarital sexuality?
Though
a human being gains the physical maturity of procreation at the beginning of
puberty, he/she is considered eligible for mating and reproduction much later
may be after 18 years of age or 20. And also the society insists that a sexual
practice outside a marriage is improper and illegal at times.
Premarital
sexuality is any sexual activity with an opposite sex partner or with a same
sex partner before he/she has started a married life. The term is usually used
to refer the intercourse before the legal age of a marriage. Adults who
presumably marry eventually also fall under this definition.
Why premarital sex is forbidden?
Modern
societies don't appreciate premarital lovemaking for various reasons.
Lovemaking is no more considered an outflow of the natural sexual instincts
among human beings. We see it as a necessary obligation to share the romance
between married couples and also as a medium to fulfill the social
responsibility of giving birth to the next generation.
Sexuality
is not an instrument of enjoying lustful pleasure for human beings, at least.
In premarital sex, many a times, immature human beings explore the sexuality,
jut out of curiosity, and might be are unaware of the consequences. Society has
forbid premarital sex from the very outlook that adolescence is the time to
form oneself as mature and responsible human being and not at all a time to
procreate.
After effects of premarital sex
Sex
in itself, is not wrong at any age; but premarital sex may harm the mental
development of adults in several forms. Premarital sexual experiences, many a
times, leads to the misconception that sex is to be enjoyed at whatever ways
possible. Forced premarital lovemaking will lead to mental depression and
dilemma. Another danger is possible exchange of diseases; as premarital
partners may not be aware of diseases that spread through intercourses. Getting
pregnant through premarital sex is another disaster. Emotional imbalances and
guilt feeling could be the result of most premarital sexual affairs.
How to prevent premarital sex
Premarital
sex is not approved by any modern society, yet, stories of adolescent fathers
and mothers come out largely, especially from the highly civilized European
nations. Modern lifestyle has opened multiple opportunities for boys and girls
to interact closely and deeply in public and private. They have ample chances
to experiment the sexuality which they witness through INTERNET and
Televisions.
Law
can only threaten people, can never make them to not do something. The most
effective way of defending premarital lovemaking is spreading awareness of
healthy sexuality among children. Awareness of healthy sexuality is not at all
the knowledge of safe sexuality. Train them to mingle with opposite sex in a
mature way. Inspire them with mutual respect between man and woman. From the
very childhood itself a baby should learn to accept people as men and women,
the equal partners of life on earth; not as objects to fulfill lusty wishes and
ambitions.
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